How to Deal With Bullies

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[johnburrows]

I learned how to handle bullies when I was 10. I used to spend summers w my grandparents, since I was 5. Anytime I was out in the yard this kid would come by, take my toy, push me, I’d go running in the house. One day my grandfather was home early from work. This kid came walking in the yard, I went running to the door, and my grandfather closed it on me. Wouldn’t let me in. I was petrified. The kid walked right up to me and shoved me. Then, something snapped in me. I jumped on him and beat the living shit out of him. Screaming and punching him on the ground. My grandfather came out and pulled me off of him. The kid went home crying. My grandfather looked at me and said you don’t know it, but I just saved you a lifetime of living in fear. And he was right. I never looked for trouble, but I never backed down and never have. That kid and I became the best of friends for life. He passed away a few years ago. Don’t baby your kids. Teach them to be peaceful but teach them to defend themselves and stick up for themselves. Up until that point of my fight at 10, I was a meek little kid who let everyone push him around. That fight changed everything. At 18 I joined the military. Became an army Ranger for 8 years. I was a member of the us army welterweight boxing team. If it weren’t for what my grandfather did that day, I never would have had the guts to do any of it. That’s my point. Even if I had lost and the kid had beaten me up, it was still better than cowering in fear all my life. Sometimes it takes tough love with those we love the most. I’m 72 now, and I haven’t lived in fear one day since

[junkyarddog]

“People should know within three seconds of interacting with you that harassing you would be a seriously bad idea.” I need to let that sink in for a while.

[oldmandice]

My Dad always said "you may not win but make sure the other guy knows he was in a fight". That has served me well.

[tetrahedron]

The problem is that, if you are being bullied by a bunch of people, it is much harder to stand up.

[Jay-dawg]

Confront your bullies and set boundaries. Never get afraid to get your hands dirty, bullies aren’t playing by the same rules.

[Razear]

"Tyrants will push until you push back." Yep, this is why bullies love to target passive victims. Only way to get the bullying to stop is if you respond counter offensively. And kids don't like hearing that because they think it'll escalate the bullying, but it's a necessary evil to remediate the problem.

[pennguy]

I was bullied as a child, but wished I would have fought back more often, even if it meant being suspended or kicked off the basketball team. I wouldn’t have struggled with such a lack of confidence and held myself to a higher standard when it came to a career or relationships.

[darthlaurel]

I've been making this argument for years: you stand up to bullies and evil in order to protect people who can't or won't protect themselves. When you do not or will not stand up against them, you empower them.

[Rainy_Day]

A courageous person dies once, a coward dies a thousand times.

[tylervandevender]

What he says about getting through six arguments to get to the actual conversation that you needed to have, . I felt that

[DennisMoore]

The worst part is that bullies are often or have been bullied themselves. Not an excuse - kick a bullies ass and you've done the world a service.

[SomeCanine]

Bullies are naturally drawn to submissive people. Conquering your fear is how you deal with bullies. The way you conquer fear and anxiety is always the same. You must face it. It is never pleasant. You always want to run away and not deal with it. The only way to deal with a bully is to stop being fearful. Standing up to them one time but still being fearful won't work. It's your fear they attack, not you as a person. They use personal attacks, but that's just an excuse. We evolved this behavior to make sure our tribe was strong and not weak. In order to not be weak, you must face your fears.

[raverdude]

My life changed when I faced a bully in 9th Grade. There was a guy in 10th grade who liked a girl who liked me. He had a massive body-building friend also in 10th who was not very smart, but was like a puppy to this guy. The body builder was convinced to pick a fight with me. He hit me first and the fight was on. I did my best but he was clearly stronger, and all the kids were cheering him on as they tend to do. But I just refused to give up. He'd knock me down and I'd get back up and charge back in. Over and over getting my own licks in while taking all that punishment. The kids stopped cheering him on and started pleading for me to give up, but I wouldn't. I just kept getting up and coming back at him. They started jeering at the body builder and finally someone got the PE Teacher who stopped the fight. I did not win, BUT I did not lose! No one ever messed with me after that in school. I've never lost a fight in all the years since.

[themanofthehour]

When I started in high school, I was bullied from being very tall at school, I stood out so much being age 12 and 6'7. It was daunting. I was taunted with words, like lanky etc.

I was pulled into an unattended classroom and slapped by someone and tried to escape, and I was rushed.

When I think back from 12 and now I am 31, NO ONE will touch me now.

Bullies are jealous because you have something they don't have, they are angry at their life and they want others to feel angry and hurt as much as they do.

[MJHW-stdt]

I broke a bully girl's leg at school. She was twice my size and had been pursuing me relentlessly. Good. She deserved it

[TheCynic-qvvj]

I really wish I had known this as a child. Throughout my life, I have been the compliant one letting others run over me, using me, treating me like crap and bullying me. It was how women were supposed to be. Women who stood their ground and didn’t let others run over them were viewed as obnoxious and called names. It took some major upheavals in my life for me to recognize that I was worth something and didn’t have to put up with this bad treatment. Now I am a force to be recorded with.

[whiskeymonk]

I fought my much larger bully at my first day at a new grade school. I was reprimanded for it as equally as he was. He continued to bully me, my sister and several others for the next three years before I moved away. That right there told me that I couldn't trust the institution.
Years later I ran into him. He was genuinely afraid of me because I was tough as nails and had just gotten off a Bering Sea fishing vessel. We ended up smoking a bowl together and he apologized for doing what he did.
Bygones be Bygones. Turns out, he had a brutal childhood. I'm profoundly happy with myself for not exacting some sort of silly revenge. He had it rough too.
Life is hard, terrifying, brutal... and it's the most beautiful thing we can imagine. I forgave him completely.
Happiness is a choice. I sincerely hope you the reader can understand this simple yet amazing concept.

[catherinelw]

There was an old film called "The Bells of St. Mary's" where this little boy was being bullied by another. The nun in the school found out, and taught the boy how to box so next time, he was able to punch the bully and knock him down. That's old school method of handling bullies and it worked. I also dealt with a bully who was constantly harassing my sister, and surprised him by giving him a good punch in the face when he started picking on her (oblivious to the fact that I was hiding in the back of the bus, waiting for him to start it). He never bothered her again.

[DJRevan]

You only have to punch them out ONCE. Never again will they bother you. Learned that in elementary. And yes, bullies have a traumatic background all the time, BUT you have to stand up for yourself, no matter what!

[void]

I was bullied in 6th grade by a highly manipulative girl. My teachers at the time didn't take it serious and if I would have engaged in physical conflict they would have seen me as the bully.