Passive aggressive people: how to stop being a victim forever!

How to deal with passive aggressiveness forever. The root cause revealed. If we know the root we can start healing the root instead of endlessly fighting the symptoms.

[Valentinfj]

''Let people be wrong about you. You don't need to defend yourself.'' Elliot Hulse

[filipthedev]

if someone is being too much passive aggressive wait till they say something again and then ask them "what are you trying to do?". They often will be surprised and don't know what to say. So if they are being annoying just say that.

[mkdcg]

The passive-aggressive people I've run into in my life generally will find something they don't like about me, create a fake problem, point the finger at me to an authority figure, and then they get me in trouble, while painting themselves as the victim and me as the perpetrator. Even though, they started the fire. When confronted on the issue, the passive-aggressive will pretend like they have no idea what you're talking about. Or they will display an apathetic attitude towards their actions, such as remorselessness, uncaring, indifferent. Then, they will keep doing it. Almost like someone who was born without a conscience or emotions.

I did some research the other day, and this kind of behavior isn't passive-aggressive. It's known as gaslighting. It is commonly used by narcissists and sociopaths.

[marypickering]

In the Animal Kingdom, weakness has a smell. Never let people smell your weakness.

[cretecoyonyh]

You start to feel like a realhuman again after 1, 5years after getting out of passive agressive envirovment. Best advide: get out as fast as possible. Wished I saw this video4 years ago

[hawkverity]

This explains why people always want to rob people who have joy and peace and contentment of these feelings by passively aggressively attacking them- and why they are so resentful and busy body anxiously irritated

[vanessap]

Correct. You got it right. Do not change the people with passive aggressive behavior to protect yourself. They can resolve that in their own way, instead fight your fear of being alone and establish that wall of positivity, confidence, and redirect mindset fighting fear and that builds the power of our own protection.

[Natalia-lkhw]

Omg I think you just explained the root to my food addiction and shopping addiction. Thank you.

[thewayofthemasseuse]

Passive agressive people seem to be cowards and were somehow shut up and not allowed to express themselves as children. I feel compassion for them. I see them. They see me.

[Stacy]

I have been healing from codepency and I have learned to recognize these behaviors. I have a new boyfriend and his passive aggressive behavior came out when I made a boundary. I know he has issues, but he seemed to be codependent rather than narcissistic. I think he was the one who was hurt when I said no, he couldn't stay a weekend with me, and so he is lashing out. I'm not feeling hurt, though it did bother me when I could see he was pulling away. But I'm ok, and I'm on the verge of ending this relationship because I don't want to have a roller coaster relationship.

[suptho]

I dealt with a passive agressive person earlier yesterday. Even though I was heated I avoided insulting the person as bad as I wanted to. I didn't wanna show I was angry and give that person the upper hand. Instead I just told him 'Aye man, I don't hate you, I have nothing against you bro I am not your enemy', something along those lines. And by showing compassion it squashed the arguing right there. I feel like when people argue and let their emotions fly you get so caught up in trying to win the argument, and sometimes even lose sight of why you were even arguing in the first place, but deep down these people don't even matter to us. I think by just realizing internally but also expressing that you don't have anything against this person is how we can walk away without feeling emotionally abused and drained of our mental energy.

[anaisminto]

Wow! What an empowering and clear view on a complex and painful subject. This video is an eye/ mind/heart opener ! Thank you so much!

[dameanvil]

0:09 💡 Aim to reveal the root cause of being a victim of passive aggressiveness.
0:24 📹 Existing videos focus on analyzing, blaming, and labeling passive aggressive behavior.
0:39 ❌ Leaving passive aggressive people doesn’t solve the root problem.
1:02 🌱 Identifying the real root cause is key to healing and liberation from victim symptoms.
2:01 😔 Everyone becomes a victim of passive aggressiveness at some point.
2:37 😨 The root cause of passive aggressiveness is fear of abandonment.
3:07 🛡 Distractions like pleasing others and being manipulated are ways to avoid feeling unresolved pain.
4:26 🧠 Mind techniques alone won’t solve the root problem.
5:00 🌟 Solving the root of our pain leads to a natural, fulfilling life.
6:00 🌞 Turning on our own light eliminates darkness and pain.
7:03 🧩 Shifting our perspective changes our reality from victim to independently fulfilled.
9:22 🧱 Building a wall of control around pain starts a cycle of endless distractions.
10:32 🔒 This pattern of distraction is exhausting and imprisoning.
12:32 🌈 A reality without fear and unresolved pain is possible, leading to true fulfillment.
14:26 🎯 Liberation from fear and pain is the key to natural abundance.

[laurabarber]

You are right you got to get to the root of the problem. The only person you can change is yourself! Trust your feelings! If you don't feel good and are worried, anxious confused you're not in a good place or are not around good people. I wish the very best to all who read this!

[petmomful]

My husband must have some very deep seated insecurities, or something. He is passive aggressive to the max. Everything he says and does, towards me, is passive aggressive. Over the years, I have figured out what is going on, to a degree. Then I would put boundaries up. For example, after many many years of him "forgetting" to tell me about his family's parties, or functions, and his family members refusing to inform me, I cut off his whole family. That solved that problem. But I have realized that every conversation is PA. He doesn't answer me, he answers me in circles, he did not hear me, he has nothing to say, he does not want to talk about it, he doesn't know, he cannot have fun, he doesn't like to talk while he is driving, he forgot. Every interaction with him is PA. A few days ago I hit the wall and stopped talking to him altogether. I only answer yes or no if I am asked something. I am 64 and disabled, and I don't know what will happen to me if I divorce him. My kids and grandkids worship their wonderful dad. He is so helpful and handy. He just has to exert this power of me, who is supposed to be his equal. This is a form of abuse and I am surprised I have any sanity left. My kids would never believe me if I told them what was going on. I have tried a couple of times and they say they don't want to get in the middle of it. Going to counseling is a nightmare. He doesn't say or admit to anything. I must be making it all up. And the therapists believe him and say I am playing "victim." Because, after all, he is such a nice man.

[ninale-currier]

Im seeing this in a lot of comments, that he is speaking in the view point of the person that is being passive aggressive. I see it in the view point of the victim of passive aggression and condescension. You as victim, rewiring yourself to not be a victim to someone elses behavior. Learning how to find a healthy way of dealing and coping with the root of why we are broken. Starting with yourself first, so that it is not a continuous constant battle each time you encounter someone who may knowingly or unknowingly try to tear you down. That's my take away from it.

[dashborderless]

This speaks to me so much and what I went through :(. Talking to someone I thought the world of for 6 months almost everyday only to be gradually and slowly tossed aside in the most sadistic way.

[utubit]

is anyone else afraid of having to deal with the very real threat of physical confrontation with much larger opponents and/or public ramifications as a result of being yourself?

[bellaviebravery]

Passive Aggressive Behaviour, Silent treatment, Narcissistic Personality Traits. These are killers ! They can kill you slowly till it consumes you totally. Many of the personality disorders are underlying subconsciously or unconsciously. I am speaking from my experience & life lessons. Practicing self-love & self-care are the priorities. We must always be aware of our own feelings, if something just doesn't feel right, trust your gut and leave the person or go contact even it was a best friend.. Seriously no joke!!! Thanks for this video !!!

[peepsicle]

Address what they’re really saying instead of what they pretend to be saying. Deal with it head on. So if someone says “Some people just want to play the victim.” And you know they’re talking about you, but don’t have the guts to actually say what they mean out loud, address it as if they were saying it out loud, because they basically are.

Or, As I dealt with my extremely passive aggressive sister yesterday, when I walked away from her she made a “tsk” noise. I could have ignored it and kept on walking past her in the hallway of the building we both live in, but instead I addressed it. I responded to it for what I knew it was. I said “I’m sorry, but I just can’t be friends with you right now. I need to undo the damage that’s already been done first.” And then she acted as if she hadn’t made a snick noise, and nodded and fell all over herself agreeing with me. Whatever. I know she ran and immediately gossiped with people about this interaction, but I know that I at least addressed her rude behavior head on.