It's rough missing someone who has humiliated and hurt you in the deepest way. Makes you feel worse when you realize it too.
justinferdenzi
Hundreds of videos; this really hit home for me. Thank you 😮
_Red_Pills
It is the "hope" that some how the person will change to see your real value. Unfortunately, that will never happen...😢
jaggersalapayne
its also important to remember that when youve been in abuse for awhile, THAT is the new norm, so being out of it is a new experience and can sometimes even be scarier than the abuse itself because youre so used to the latter
catstate
Facts Exactly Stephanie you are amazing appreciate you for speaking the truth
sarahpacheco
He made me so physically insecure by his actions, that I still want his validation. Trying to instead find my validation from within now, because I should have never been looking for it elsewhere anyway…
rhythmnblues
Emphasis: and you not even being attracted to this person. Better to be alone and heal than in this dynamic.
camilla
How about wanting them back, and missing them, but still letting them go, and now not knowing what you want unless it’s them. If that makes sense. I’m a mess!
noesilva
Why is it that everything is your fault and never theirs. How do you deal with someone who is always threatening to leave ???
MarieAntoinette_tmc
Thank you !❤Stephanie ❤wonderful ❤this helps to see clearly!❤
rosaliaoliver-qvgr
Ya by people's patterns they break you down. We do have good memories but he's not fully honoring me.
Bria
Sometimes we just love broken people. 🤷♂️
Introverted
I guess i miss the constant anxiety whenever he was around, or waiting for him to come home at night, looking through his phone for evidence of cheating, his kindness turning into anger in seconds, but why do i miss that? I guess because he was my drug and now being on my own( rehab!!) i miss my drug, i am definitely suffering 😮😢❤
TamikaTaylor-rlim
My story of self-abandonment, egocentrism, and addiction: I ran back because I did not recognized being addicted to my own stresshormones and "thinking" I was the problem, feeling guilty and over responsible and that maybe we could work things out if we both changed (eachother)🤦
In 2022 I finally left for good. I felt horrible because I felt I abandoned him. He was going through a rough time and I felt I needed to stick around a little longer (I was afraid he would die or going into another mental health crisis where he could not pull himself out from on his own because of his own addictions). Months after I worried if he was okay(ish) and was taking care of his cat (sorta). Eventually I looked at his social media and found out he kinda was and I felt relief. And then the grievingprocess finally could really begin.
A lot of guilt and shame needed to be released and I still am not through this process.
thelordcomanderwhocriedwolf
It is difficult. Mine dropped surprise divorce. Emptied my house, took my kids and moved in with her aged narcissist mother. Whole different level of monster. I work long hours all over Alaska everyday remote in summers. I happen to be in the city they’re in, try to see my boys whenever I can. Emailed her as I had to block her on the phone (endless reactive abuse from her). I had asked to see my sons and take them to dinner.
I just got an email at 3:13am explaining that my email went to her spam for “some reason” or else we could totally have done something blah blah blah.
Write back
Hello,
Things are what they are.
Regards.
The games. Everything. I am so sick of her. And the divorce hasn’t even begun. I wish she was the person I imagined. 16 years are gone. I do weekly therapy and that has been enlightening. And these videos as well. Thanks for your content. Best luck everyone in your battles with these people.
DustinHodgson
Isn’t it crazy to want someone back who has used, abused and hurt you on all levels, and now that he is gone you miss him sooo much, it is pure addiction and i miss my drug, i guess i need more time to heal😮😢❤
TamikaTaylor-rlim
i recommend father abulu saved my marriage with my husband 💕now we are together again in love and oneness thank you sir 💕I'm grateful
LucilleJohnson-nq
Yeah but what about getting over them emotionally but still wanting them back because of how they look? Thats where I struggle with the most and I wish you can make a deep dive video into this one day because it really feels like there is no answer for me
