5 Things You Should NEVER Tell Coworkers

The last thing you want to do is deal with coworkers gossiping about you, or find yourself in the middle of shady office politics. But you’re probably making one of these mistakes at work, putting yourself in a spot where your boss and coworkers won’t take you seriously and hurting your career. In this video, I’m breaking down what you should never talk about at work, and what you can say instead to avoid office drama and position yourself for career success.

Timestamps
0:00 Avoid being the center of office gossip
0:17 Keep your ambition to yourself
2:11 Keep your boss’ trust, NEVER do this
3:56 You don’t want to be this person
5:29 Planning your escape?
7:12 Coworkers are NOT your friends

Important: names and identifying info has been changed. Some stories are from former clients, people I encountered in my career, and some are from the Career Bestie Community.

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[shebri]

Silence is a friend who never betrays you

[Menix]

1. Career ambitions
2. Don't tell coworkers what your boss tells you
3. Don't complain to your coworkers
4. Don't tell them when you're looking for another job
5. Don't share personal info with coworkers

[MrSloika]

Co-workers are NOT YOUR FRIENDS. I'm a social person by nature and I've made this mistake numerous times. Yup, co-workers are not your friends. BTW, there are a lot of other things you should never tell your co-workers. Never tell your co-workers you have a side-hustle of any kind. Never tell your co-workers your house or car is paid off. Never tell your co-workers that you are handy and save money by doing your own house or car repairs. If you boss gets wind that you're getting ahead on the money he pays you he will find a way to pay you LESS. Bosses want to hear that you're struggling and barely able to get by.

[gotinogaden]

I'd add mental health and family issues. Unfortunately, scapegoats tend to overshare as they seek support and understanding from others, but at the workplace, judgement runs rampant.

[Revolver_Ocelot]

As the saying goes, "At work don't talk about your money, your honey or your next move."

[aliaalnuaimi]

“Co-workers are not your friends” I wish if I had realised this sooner! I got in terrible because I thought they were nice and supportive. However, their real motive was to gather content for gossiping… Thanks Jennifer! You are AMAZING!

[christy]

No matter what you are going through, NEVER share it with any of your coworkers!

[samyuktaashokkrishnan]

I love your content. It's a great reminder to just go to work, clock in, do your job and clock out. No need to talk too much with anybody. These days, you never know who's truly a friend and who's not, unfortunately.

[mariojane]

Let’s be realistic. That environment where you can’t be yourself it is a toxic environment .

[willn]

All this makes me glad I work remotely from my home office. Don't have to deal with toxic coworkers.

[polster]

Most important thing to remember is your co-workers/boss are not your friends/family no matter how friendly someone seems. A lot people especially a middle mgr. who is your boss is trained to have a friendly face to the lower level employees they are supervising but their loyalty lies to their mgr. and people above them. You should never say negative things in your 1-1s to your mgr. like I am tired, overworked, too many projects, you don't like some co-worker, etc.. The mgr. uses your words against you behind your back!

[sebasterlopez]

So true Jen! I wish I knew these advices starting my career, when I was young, naive and trusted the good will of my coworkers.
I learned these lessons by the hard way

[PhantomMagician]

never complain or say anything negative about your job or a coworker in writing !! this includes texts, email, Facebook, YouTube, ect. if you have to vent say it to somebody's face or at least over the phone (your personal phone). I have seen to many examples of people sending a text that comes back to haunt and in some cases years latter.

[dijonvolner]

Don't tell them anything at all & keep your personal life & work life separate! ❤️

[josephj]

I don’t tell my workers of my financial status. I’m debt free and own our own home plus plus plus. I tell them I’m in debt and my expenses are huge if they must know. There are many jealous people.

[bcetinstitute]

There has been an increase of meetings at work which encourage employees to share their emotions and personal challenges. I have been set against such meetings as they encourage persons to share ackward details.

For example one colleague shared that felt responsible for her son's suicide due to giving priority to work rather than family. Another shared that she liked to destress after work by having a glass of wine. In both instances there was rampant office gossip with the latter being branded an 'alcoholic'.

I tend to have a high level of participation and contribution at meetings but in these meetings I avoid saying a word like my life depended on it. Even if I have personal struggles there is nothing to be gained by sharing this with a room of over 100 colleagues. Plus they are not mental health professionals or friends so they are not in a position to advise or support me effectively.

[lockonstratos]

1 career ambitions
2 dont tell others things you boss tells you.
3 grievances with co-workers
4 never say you're looking for a new job
5 dont over share personal information with co-workers.

[willowingwhispers]

As someone who works with a person who likes to gossip and badmouths literally almost everyone else in the office -- especially on days when she's stressed -- I've learned not to trust coworkers.

[Chris-tgqy]

I agree about the promotion topic very strongly and it’s something people easily forget about. Keep in mind that there are coworkers that might admire you and be jealous of you at the same time. They may see your ambition and dreams in such a positive light that they develop the same same dreams and ambitions based on what you want. Now, you have caused a competitive situation where there might not have been one. These people don’t or can’t think for themselves so they copy you and then you may become the resentful one. All of the other stuff is true too, but career aspirations are directly related to money and ego. Those are two things that cause people to do weird things.

[lollipoptrollop]

I’ve been working in an office job for 10 days after taking seven years off. I mistakenly said that I want to work hard so I can get my next pay raise the next day. The boss comes up to me and tells me I’m trying to hard to fit in… That’s when I found your channel work Bestie