“What can I do to get my child back?” (Formerly alienated adult child POV)

Giving you insider info (what happens behind closed doors during parental alienation) so that, hopefully, you'll have more ammunition against this terrible form of child ab*se.

Please leave your thoughts or other tips in the comments below! I'd love to hear from you!

#parenting #parentalalienation #divorce #custody

[psykmeistr]

Psychologist here, and your advice is spot-on and so psychologically healthy! So glad you emerged healthy, thriving, and finding your purpose here. I will point all my alienated adult children and parents to your channel for healing and understanding. May God richly bless you and your relationship with your father, and I also pray for restoration with your mother, in whatever healthy capacity that entails. I always say, "Hurt people hurt people." And that's clearly what she did. I pray for her ultimate healing, if that is possible (as we know sometimes it is not, especially with untreated Axis II diagnoses). Thank you for sharing your truth and your channel. God speed ❤🙏🏼

[tinman]

I last held my son when he was 6 months old. He celebrated his 25th birthday last year. The pain never lessens 😢

[erickrichter]

I'm the father of 8 adult alienated children and 3 minors that I was able to get back using the criminal route. I love what you're doing.

[kimparke]

I know my 31 year old daughter who I adore couldn't consent at 13 while she was being bribed and manipulated, and now I don't know her family, my grandson's, I am their Grandmother, so many losses. Appreciate you sneaking about this horror.
God bless you 🙏. 🙏 ❤

[michaelfleming]

What's even harder if your children have completed blocked from your life.. you cant call .. you cant email ..they avoid or run away from you when they see you in the street. In my case over eight years .. I haven't been able to speak to them... so trying to contact them or start the process is impossible. this is the hopelessness of this situation. We all don't live forever... My greatest fear is I will die and not get a chance to tell my story or give them a chance to hear the truth. To die and still be alienated is beyond reckoning. To think your children have been brain washed and yet the truth doesn't get out is just terrible. Thanks for your videos and best wishes to all alienated mothers, fathers and children. We all share something terrible ...someone has stolen something from us and often we cant do a single thing about it.

[candicebadie]

We are in the middle of this. I lost my older 2 to parental alienation. My oldest daughter was kidnapped from me. I fought in court but still lost due to the lies. My oldest son “chose” the other parent based on lies. They both dropped out of school and their life went to drugs. I haven’t seen my older son in over 3 years. Please keep speaking out for them and help us. Thank you!!!

[craiglyndaziegenhagel]

What it feels like to be an alienated parent (now over 20 years for me with zero contact), it feels like a death. My first son died of SIDS, my other two kids have "died" from parental alienation. That is what it feels like. You long for a relationship that feels like the loss of a death but you know they are alive, living without you just miles away. That is difficult to reconcile. Is there ever an age where, if the opportunity ever arises, that you should tell them the truth and stand up for yourself, where in my case there is no longer a third party that can do it for you? I know other long term alienated parents that believe they will just have to violate this unwritten code and tell their adult alienated child the truth even if it causes more harm. They believe they have nothing more to lose and they hope the adult child can handle the truth or at least listen. It is a very difficult decision.

[bwalsberg]

As a father of 2 alienated boys, thank you for confirming what I have been experiencing and have known for 10 long years. The big issue that needs to be addressed is that once the child “wakes up” they are faced with the reality that their so called savor was actually their abuser. What then? Do you cut the abusive parent off? That is a difficult proposition as they may be the emotional and physical provider as the state has put them in this position.

I think that although the child knows who is abusive and who is not, they are going to side with the controller. It is extremely rare for the child to go against the abuser, a well know example of this is 14 year old Parker from Texas……look it up, heart wrenching. I can see the emotional damage that has been done and it is difficult to stand by and watch someone do this to your child.

[petestegler]

Great work. I was an alienated kid, and am now an alienated dad. It's so painful. 3yrs and she's in college overseas. I appreciate your perspective and love hearing the recovering kids point of view. I'm glad you are back with your loving dad.

[clarysagemannoroth]

I was an alienated child who grew up, married a narcissist, and have had my children turned against me. I am fortunate to still have my kids in my life but the cost has been me taking continuing abuse from their father who I divorced 14 years ago. 2 of my kids are in therapy and I have hard days but I have hope. I wish you all the best and I pray you get your babies back. Take it a day at a time

[JennyBroom-xk]

Thank you for giving this a voice from your perspective. I miss and love my daughter so much, patiently waiting for the vail to fall off.

[MsTosha]

It hurts so bad 😞 I don't want to lose my son 🙏❤️

[mudpiesandholyghost]

Thank you! Thank I am on day 42 of being alienated from my kids. I let them go to their dad’s house for extra visitation time. When I went to pick up children, he refused to return them.

I am the mother who is being alienated from my children by my ex husband an his wife. On 4/1/24 during a phone call my son lashed out in anger towards me, blaming me. I’m so hurt. I’m so lost. I’m so devastated. My children are 15 and 14 and we were always so close. I homeschooled them their whole life. I began seeing attitude shifts the last several months when they came home from their visits.

Any videos on teenage alienation would be awesome!
More do’s a don’ts videos for me!!!

I want my children back!!!
I want normal back!
I want what I once had, back!
I want my children back.

[TigerTina]

Oh my gosh every single thing you said is what my dad has gone through / is going through. Girl you are so spot on. I sent him your channel to watch everything. His ex loves to compare!! I actually chuckled when you said that because it’s so true. She compares vacations, activities, etc. And she LOVES playing the victim!! The smear campaign is real. Before my dad went no contact (which has been a game changer to a more peaceful life), he would send me screenshots of her texts & I would get boiling mad (literally shaking) at what she would say to him with my teenage siblings copied. She was damaging their mental health with her lies & verbal abuse. And my dad’s! I kept thinking: “No normal mother/human would say these things.” I kept saying something is wrong with her brain. I truly believe she has narcissistic personality disorder. I pray my sister gets out of this alienation soon 🙏🏼 Thank you again for sharing all of this!! I’m so happy you saw the light & can now spend time with your dad 🩵

[מנחםסוכות]

Thank you very much for the wise and important words.
I am so happy for you and your father that you managed to come back despite everything.
I really appreciate your work on this painful issue.

[brokensystembrokentrust]

I am binge watching your content. You are so articulate and smart, it shows vividly when you speak. Please keep telling your story.

I dont know what your goals for your channel are. I'm sure you will be incredibly successful. Topics like this arent usually about making money. But, I hope in your journey to spread awareness, you see some monetary gain to help make telling your story a little easier. Maybe this was meant to put you in that place? I hope so.

I AM ROOTING FOR YOU ALL THE WAY!!!

[hakanblixt]

You are spot on in so many ways, at least in my case. Saying sorry as a parent, even if you think it should be the other way around, is a good idea. I have never apologized for things that didn't happen, despite my daughter's conviction to the contrary. However, I have apologized for things such as not seeing how she was feeling much earlier, that I wished I had been more attentive, etc. As a parent, I have had to play by my daughter's rules even though it goes against common sense. I don't want to encourage destructive behavior, but nothing about alienated children is intuitive. Put any anger aside. Think and act contrary to your instinct.

You confirm what I have feared for a long time, that it is a waiting game. With that in mind, I am convinced that the strategy above is a possible way to go.

Many of your tips and testimonials are invaluable.

[zaygfazinetto]

I just came across your content and I love it! Thank you for speaking up! I am myself an alienated father of a 9 year old daughter. I believe my case is mild although it fluctuates up and down. At least I still see my daughter at least once a week and been able to counteract the alienation by showing her unconditional love and being very creative in my approach. You are absolutely right, this is a waiting game. Again, thank you for sharing from the alienated kid's perspective, it gives us fathers a lotta insight and hope! 🙏🏼✨️

[charlessudom]

Thanks for speaking out, you are one of the few alienated children that has seen the trurh and escaped the grasp of deception which runs deep. Good point about our victim loving culture, unfortunately many embrace it rather than be ashamed of it which makes the alienation worse. My oldest daughter has cut me off, praying for some external source to show her the truth.

[keeleehudson]

I’ve been searching for kids that have been alienated. Ty so much for this. My mother is alienating my kids from me. I came to California to get help for the abuse my mother inflicted onto me.