The Sad Girl to Female Rage Pipeline

second channel: @shansorbet
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Hi! I'm Shaniya but I use the moniker Shanspeare on Youtube. I'm 24, use they/them pronouns, and love all things pop culture! My channel has a lot going on: think Shakespeare meets Baz Luhrmann meets insufferable jester in a relevant but silly costume. I have a bachelor's in English Professional Writing (and basically Literary Analysis--long story) which aids me in the creation of my content. Above all, I wish to emphasize teachability and critical engagement through a fun lens.
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timestamps:
0:00 skit and intro
9:49 part one: the pipeline
13:39 part two: the sad girl
29:34 part three: the rageful feminine
33:40 T.O.E
38:43 self aware conclusions
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Tags:
female rage, sad girl, lana del rey, femcel, female manipulator, girl blogger, skins, tumblr, male gaze, female gaze, jennifers body, black swan, carrie, video essays, shanspear, commentary videos

[Shanspeare]

got a new microphone (i promise it's good, i just don't know how to use it yet.) i apologize for any inconsistent audio :-p

[tyrmetir]

I think a lot about Carrie. How in the book she was a fat girl with acne, but in the movies she's skinny and, all be it in a sort of unconventional way, attractive. Feminine rage is always more about the femininity than the rage

[shelbymoore]

i love art about feminine rage, but fat women esp fat woc aren't represented--if anything, our rage is seen as masculine. we're not allowed to be ugly even in our emotional output a a direct result of how we're treated by society.

[islaizzy]

as a kid, i was always known as the dramatic one. i stubbed my toe, dramatic. a dog bit me, dramatic. sick, dramatic. suicidal, dramatic. and then i was angry. i would always “talk back”, until it wasn’t talking, it was screaming, and then it wasn’t screaming, it was silence. i had learned to lock away my emotions in my room or my diary, or cry silently as i’m still dramatic. they never care until you’re on the roof.

[henriettdoesstuff]

The sad girl is only accepted if you look pretty to others while crying

[Sheepcakezzz]

I just don't like how feminine rage doesn't usually include WOC or biracial/mixed girls or fat women

[paulmaccaroni]

Classic example: in high school strangers would jump at the chance to soothe the pretty white girl that cried. Be a part of her trauma. Be the hero she'll surely be thankful for. And then if I was distressed/cried being an overweight brown girl... It was seen as a nuisance and promptly ignored.

[jadenstanley]

Women taking 2x more time to be killed in horror movies sent chills down my spine. Disgusting.

[okaythen]

Can we talk about the cinematography of this channel and how great it has become

[writeleft]

As a Black woman raised in an abusive family that turned me into a Sad Girl- I definitely appreciate this and the discourse it's creating.

[HanaTheRussell]

If your family continues to disregard your pain without meaningful apologies or change, feel free to join us in the “estranged adult children” club who cut off their families because we don’t deserve that kind of mess in our lives. All kids deserve parents but not all parents deserve kids. Some people would rather have abusive parents than none at all, and I am NOT one of them holy hell. Spent years and years trying to get change and change never came. So I made it for myself.

[mangosteenserpent]

I see so many people saying that women are allowed to express their emotions without being judged but I never feel that way. the times where I cry in front of other people, even in front of family members, I feel like I'm giving people reasons to look down on me. I believe that people witnessing me like that think I'm too sensitive or immature.

[restingsadface]

we are about to be fed tonight ladies 😩

[catcat]

I was the ideal woman for so long. Meek, agreeable, didn't complain, tried to inspire... it only got me stalkers and pushed around

[VeeKayGreenerGrass]

"Anger is a human emotion, neither good nor bad. It's actually a signal emotion: it warns us of indignity, threat, insult and harm. Severing anger from femininity means we sever girls and women from the emotion that best protects us from injustice."

[verdancyhime]

Also it's not that the sad girl does not desire change, it's that she thinks the only change possible is that she can make her pain glamorous. It's not that she does not desire change, it's that she believes the changes available to her are only to convince people to fetishize her pain.

[bekkoucheabdeldjalelmohame]

As gay young man growing up in a homophobic county I always found myself attracted to and identified with the whole female rage I guess it kinda comes from the constant bullying I experience due to my interest in many things that are considered feminine

[GeekChicPolitiq]

"A vague human entity who happens to enjoy hyper-femininity' I FEEL SEEN

[Jean-gful]

As a brown Latine enby, my parents raised me “masculine” but expected me to adhere to my afab-girl gender roles. It was confusing learning what I was or wasn’t allowed to feel as a kid or teen. I couldn’t cry if my feelings were hurt or if i scraped my knee, I couldn’t be upset if someone hurt me or made fun of me, I was raised to be numb and indifferent, adherent to everyone but myself. Now that I’m making good progress with inner child work in therapy, anger isn’t scary and far more comfortable, sensitivity is my strength, loneliness is understandable, and I let myself feel sadness. Bc I present femme, there’s always so much pushback on my femme rage but like it was stated in the video, community helps me express and navigate through it <3 super great vid!!!

[someoddchick]

As a fem black woman who’s with a beautiful Native women just the first 15 minutes hit me super hard.

Growing up as a dark black girl, I was not allowed to express either of these emotions and am in general viewed as more masculine by nature. My partner was raised pretty much the same way. We have some of these same conversations and share our personal experiences with each other. It’s wild comparing ourselves to these figures and then each other; goes into some pretty interesting directions.