My parents raised an undiagnosed autistic child... and honestly my mom heard some stupid crap from other parents about what she should do. "Oh, she doesn't like the food? Make her eat it for breakfast tomorrow." "Oh, she's hiding under tables and covering her ears? Pull her up and make her act like a lady." "Oh, she's screaming because she's scared? Spank her into shape." Thank GOD my mom is smart enough to tell a dumb idea from a good one. I think she raised me pretty good. She makes sure I know we're a team, and that even though life will always look different for me, I can go to her for anything.
mynameisonlytwoletters
I was struggling with our baby one day while I was super sick and I just sat down and held her while she cried. My husband came and stood over me and told me I need to get over myself and take care of her. Couple days later I was in the hospital. You don’t forget the way people treat you when you need them the most.
miranda
“i can be stressed and grateful at the same time “ i say this all the time and it’s never been understood lol
janskans
Listening and validating what people say about their feelings os so important!
Yesterday we had a delivery guy who was so annoyed about the tires he had to deliver moving around his truck and messing all his other orders up. As soon as I said "That must be so frustrating!" he actually smiled in relief that someone understood him.
Juniper_berries
Dehumanizing women by invalidating and minimizing their pain shows up in many forms!
tamarbatyah
When I would complain to my mom about how difficult motherhood was, she would hug me, tell me I was doing great and then tell my dad and husband to watch the kids so we could go get ice cream. We'd then go to the grocery store, get a bunch of stuff and come back and have an ice cream party with the kids. My mom is gone now, but on hard or stressful days, we still have ice cream parties.
SusieQ
This is just general kindness advice: If someone approaches you with a problem, don't blame them for the problem. Show some empathy instead of being judgmental.
gamera
As an autistic person who struggled for a long time to understand various social cues, these videos have been so helpful with how to express myself in a healthy way and also to understand where others might be coming from. Thank you Jimmy :)
TanealKyra
‘Suck it up’ has always been such a toxic mindset to me. Yes, there are times where you do need to bunker down and not complain, but that’s rarely when I hear the term used. It’s always used towards a person who is stressed, upset or just not having a good time and just wants to vent. Saying ‘suck it up’ in that situation basically means ‘I don’t care about you or your problems and don’t want to hear about it’. Which just seems really mean to me.
Obsession_Queen_
“Being a sahm isn’t work you get to be at home all day with your kids.”
Oh sweetie. I can tell you despite having more freetime i am overwhelmed. Most of the time beyond what i can handle. Kids are 24/7 365. Mom gets no days off, no vacation days, no me time. None. And if you do it gets shredded the moment a child needs you. Being mom is probably one of the hardest things i’ve ever done. Working a dead end job is by ar easier and less emotionally and physically taxing that being a mom. I can quit my job and someone else will do it. But if i quit being mom there’s no guarantee someone will love those kids like you do. No guarantee wherever they go they will be cared for like mom will. Moms need breaks. Moms need love.
killereria
I was WAITING for that “I just don’t get paid for it, though” at the end.
It’s so true and so, so sad.
phoenixfeathers
The right response:
Do you need help or do you just want me to listen?
Sometimes just being able to talk through things fixes the overwhelming feeling. But sometimes you truly need a break. I remember one difficult year I had 4 children under 5, and I was struggling. A sweet woman at church booked a hotel room for me for a weekend. She understood more than anyone what I was going through! Another lady from church started coming over once a week during nap time so we could just talk and she gave me compassion and encouragement. We are in a much easier stage of life now and I hope for the opportunity to someday help a young mom like I was helped! My whole life I’ve been surrounded by wonderful people, I’m so grateful.
MandiArt
I’ll be honest: I wish I would’ve been more sensitive to my wife’s struggles earlier on because it’s harder to change bad habits now.. I feel like this guy would be my perfect counseling match.
OneSmileAtATime.
I worked as a babysitter for a couple months and taking care of kids is the most stressing thing in the world. The worst part is that I didn't have them all day long nor weekends. I can't imagine what it feels like to have them 24/7 on you. Props to anyone who can deal with it. I certainly wouldn't do it alone
Hweienthusiast
"I can actually be stressed and grateful at the same time." That summarizes my experience as a mother.
valeriemoore
I was a SAHM for 15 years. I was ALWAYS the default parent. The ex/bd is mean, controlling and a road rager. The boys and I went through so much. No alimony and no child support. I didn't push for either because he's dishonest, and a financial abuser. As long as the kids had provisions, I didn't mind it. Then he married. They live in our old house with our dog. He acts like step father of the year but quit supporting both of OUR kids last year. I love my boys. I'm grateful. However, I'm also tired. Both of my kids have spent a lot of time in therapy, as I have and am now. One of them is on meds, and I'm taking them, too. Still starting over five years out. I've had no contact with him in three months. I'm hurt that he's excluded himself from the kids' lives. However, he created most of their problems, so, at least they have more peace now. I've had no family to help me in any way. I love my babies, and it's been difficult but at least we're free.
charity
I was a stay at home mom to 5 children. My husband was pretty appreciative. We once attended a work get together for his co-workers. A wife of a colleague he worked with introduced us and she ssid: This is Bob he works with Joe. This is Joy. She does nothing. I was pretty shaken by that because I didn't deal with that at home. There i was the rock that ran the daily workings of the family. It never occurred to me (until then) that general society viewed me as lazy and maybe privileged. Its years later now but I am always super tuned in to struggling mothers.
joykoski
I am now an empty Nester. But this video still made me cry. Raising kids was very hard. And my husband didn’t support me and would say just those things… At least you didn’t have to go to work! And then proceeded to tell me how he stood around all day and talked with his friends at work, while I was dealing with meltdowns and trying to entertain four young children, when we lived in Las Vegas and it was too hot to be outside! Thank you for posting a video that really matters
quiltscatsandkids
I was a stay-at-home mom for 10 years, and my husband would frequently make jokes (in front of the kids) about how maybe we can switch. I'll go to work and he can just stay home with the kids. Then, a few months ago, I got a part time job at the school district, sometimes I even get to work at my youngest's school. I thought the jokes would stop, but no. He just said (still in front of the kids) "How about you go to my job all day, and I'll just work a couple days a week, and get to play with [daughter] while I'm there!" It definitely makes me feel undervalued, and concerned that the kids will start to think the same thing.
Kate-ozhf
"why are you so stressed? We always have everything" yeah. Bc she organized everything, made the food, dressed the kids, made the appointments, etc 💀
