Why You Went From Smart Kid to Feeling Lost? And What No One Ever Told You

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in this video we'll discover Why You Went From Smart Kid to Feeling Lost? And What No One Ever Told You

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[bowserheadteacher]

Answer: Your smartness was constantly made an indispensable aspect in your teachers' expectations, they told you "you're so bright, perhaps you could learn about this subject" and you do but you are apathetic towards it and you therefore fail at it, but because "you're a genius", you strive for perfection, blissfully unaware of the ramifications of that. And because you are constantly dragged down by the fear of failing due to not having a comprehensive understanding of every subject, you become despondent and your life slips from your fingertips.

[kollyklips]

This is the reason why introverts were created 🤔 anyway you opened my eyes

[George-fpb]

I can kind of relate to this. Up until 9th grade, I was acing my exams non-stop. From 10th grade, I started lacking in terms of intelligence. Bcuz of this, I repeatedly called myself a dumbass who's terrible at everything and always will be.

[TheSketchManor]

I’ve been carrying this invisible weight for years. You just helped me name it, and now I feel lighter. Truly grateful for this

[zoe_zee]

I am an average student in 12th grade since 9th grade I would be like good grades are must. A perfectionist to be precise which gradually decreased. But, I stll cannot shake the feeling that I am not an intelligent person/ topper. I am basically obsessed 😮‍💨. I like studying but at the same time it isn’t right to be obsessed with it. Thank you for making this video. I am sure it’s gonna have an impact on me even if it is small 😊.

[yumiko]

This stopped me from taking the delf exam years ago and lost my opportunities to take it again, now im stuck with only A1 deploma but no other proof that i can speak at a much better level than A1, please never do the same mistake as me :( don’t be afraid of failure

[angeloswaldo]

Brother, thank you so much. I've been procrastinating studying for my college entrance exam cause "I should know every subject." The feeling of imperfection and ignorance about a subject scared me, as I grew up in an environment where I was "completely perfect" and felt that was my only path. That ruined a beautiful relationship I could have with a girl I couldn't even imagine talking to, because I overthought everything, every interaction, every move. Yes, I craved the feeling of connection when the only thing I wasn't connecting with was myself. Now I know what not to do and what I should do right now.

Let me tell you, with your message, I know that feeling "dumb" for not knowing something should be seen as growth, because that's the only way we could improve ourselves and have a better life.

You describe me literally, and your way of expressing the entire message is something different. I want to tell you that you saved me with this, and I hope you do very well and continue helping people. Because that's what I needed to hear.
Greetings from Guadalajara, México. (Ps. I'm gonna put myself to study and embrace the discomfort in other activities) tysm

[LynnIndigo]

This is so relatable. When I was in high school, I was always the kid with good grades, neatly written notes, submitted all of my homework with great qualities, prepared for slides and content, the one people bank on when there's a group project. Teachers used my notes and essays as an example for the class. They expected me to be good even when I am not even good with it (my major is English and for some reason my Physics teacher thought I would be flawless with Physics too?) When I forgot to bring my notes once, my teacher just looked down disappointedly and moved on to the next person, and some kid called me "a fallen angel", simply because I forgot to bring my notes. The expectations people have on me are suffocating. I was scared of failing because I didn't want to disappoint them. But through this video I realized I was also scared of losing my identity. Everything that I said and did was so cringey when I thought about it at night, to the point that I didn't even do or say anything, to anyone. I was alone throughout high school. I skipped every party or gatherings with my class because I was scared people wouldn't like me, I was scared I would hate myself even more. Then I saw people participating in clubs and societies, knowing what they want for university, and when they asked me what university would I go in, I was scared because I had no idea what I want. And I didn't want to appear like I didn't know what to do. Going into college, this pattern continued. I'm in second year now. My friends all have internships and I don't. I cried every night thinking about my future. But I wake up and tell people I'm fine and it's not something I want right now. Because I'm so scared that people might see me panicking. My parents still think I'm doing great, excelling at school like I've always have. But I'm not. I've definitely working on this now. I've tried to talk to people more, showed them that I'm upset too, that I have my worries and anxieties too. But from times to times, I can't help but feeling like people are hanging out with me because they pity me, that they see through my facade and how miserable I am. But at the same time I feel like I'm overestimating myself, because people don't think about me that much. It's hard out here. But I'm working on it. Thanks for this video, I feel seen.

[KillerKatz]

Thank you ThatGuy I’m glad YouTube brought this to me. I’ve been trying, and now I’ll keep going. What happens, happens. Thank you.

[lolBMAN]

This guy knows how to ACTUALLY spread meaningful messages

[InfinityGaming]

Crazy how relatable this is, I went from topper to flopper in classes 10-12

[Forgottendude]

My technique: think that ur time has ended, treat it like a great history or simply "be humble" bc it will return in time.

[Fatma-ppr]

I love it.."failure isn't just failure... It's an identity crisis." That is so true. I wasn't the smart kid, I became the smart college student. It felt awesome because I finally belonged somewhere and felt special. I made it my identity, because I didn't want my own identity.
The problem is, that IS NOT my identity. I hated who I am and I created a life I wanted.... A life that wasn't sustainable. Even if I succeed all the time, I do not stay in the same place all the time, which means the identity I built won't last all the time.. I love your videos, thank you so much❤ to anyone reading this, do not make "the smart kid" your own identity, because it isn't, you'll fail at some point, even if you don't, you won't have opportunities to succeed all the time, you won't stay where you succeed all the time.

[AKM]

I achieved A PhD in chemistry From one of oldest and great universities in the whole world. still there is no one day I don't call myself stupid or i don't feel stupid at work 😢

[aayushi]

Watching this after failing JEE. It hurts so much to watch myself perform so below my worth.

[j_o_s_h_t]

I used to enjoy school. I was on top of all my work, and I tried to get it done on time and correctly. Now, I don't know. I don't feel passionate about school like I did then. I don't even care. And then I get shy when I talk to my parents or anyone that's not my friends. I really don't know what's happening to me.

[Stifados]

Dude thanks you this is literly ma problem I was the best in my school and now not even in top 5 you right if you only had upload this video 3 years but still THANK YOU SO MUCH

[dailys.]

This is so relatable and with the calming vibe stick figure animation

[VLgamer-uk]

Man you have Changed my mind about the world. But can you make a video about the right schedule of a man. And is it your first channel. Best youtube channel i have ever seen

[rijubhatt]

All this happens because of childhood bullying, torture and thanklessness by people who could have been otherwise.