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[samaisquire]

My only criticism is that this wasn’t a longer video 😂

[MrSITH-qjzp]

More money, more choices.
More choices = confusion.

Most men appreciate challenges to over come, gives them purpose.

[davidtriplett]

This is what I deem as true conversation.

[benkanonkenton]

The introspection is a beautiful blessing you share.... Much Respect

[SuperSpectrom]

the past is history, the future is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.

[stephenfoster]

When life got easier, hearts got harder. We cared more when we had less.

[infinitymfg]

I agree with a lot of what you said. The whole idea of moving the goalpost on happiness is gender neutral. My disagreement is that I see a gender element to it. Most men don't expect a woman to make him happy, more so, of the men that do expect it, they are immediately called out on it by their friends, family, marriage councilors etc. Most women get away with tying a man directly to her happiness outcomes with very little pushback.

All you have to do is look at what either gender expects out of the other in a relationship. I'm actually surprised at how many men simply want a woman that doesn't create drama or bring a series of catch-22 scenarios into his life. It's very heavy on character, behavior, and self-control. Women literally expect a series of task to be completed for them and if those task aren't' completed then she plans to take it out on the man.

Overall, it seems that a woman's journey towards some sort of inner peace is clouded by people feeding her expectations.

[ElevationNationCONVERSATIONS]

I had thst C63 s AMG.... V8..it was fun for 6mnths then I got rid of it for a nice pick up truck...

[chuckdz]

I'll always continue to say this. The worst best times of our lives were the 80s. Poverty was everywhere, drug use was rampant, gang violence was probably at its most deadliest, Regan was in charge of the country, serial killers lurking among us. But everybody in the 80s seemed like they had a lot more fun and much happier. From the poor to the rich. There def was a lot more s3x going on in the 80s than there is now. Seems everybody in the 80s were getting high and having s3x. Sometimes I wish I was a Gen X baby. 😆

[roncall]

Really bright young man. Rare fresh breath of air on social media full of low level thinkers

[Illtechnica]

Side note, I recently saw a 1984 video of Hakeem Olajuwon's NBA draft. When he was sitting down for the interview, I swear he looked exactly like Allen! Nigerian connection. 👊🏼

[S.Eds]

🤔 You thought about this huh
Thanks for sharing

[angryox]

Great video. I hope to see more content like this on the channel in the future

[Nightcall]

Great video as always and a good conversation starter.

[gregoriepierre-louis]

“The past is history.
Tomorrow is a mystery.
But today is a gift.
That’s why it’s called the present.” 5:07

[Candy]

Simplest way to put it ….ignorance is bliss

[Seancarter]

Men don’t require women to make us happy though. Our happy comes from within

[ronaldwilliams]

You're a very intelligent person from Nigeria and you speak the truth but todays people really don't care or feel interested in logic, people want what they want.

[Nightcall]

Great video. I have several thoughts on the matter that he discussed. Apologies for the lengthy comment, unfortunately I believe it was necessary to State these things to better break down what I'm trying to iterate.

1) one of the major issues I see people of the world face today in 2024 is that they do not know the difference between what they want and what they need, so they make an assumption and assume that everything they want is what they need. Oftentimes this is incorrect and because again you do not know the difference between what you want and what you need and with social media, marketing, and lack of emotional intelligence you are more responding to these unimportant, insignificant, and short-term needs.

2) the second issue is being able to express what you want versus what you need to your partner and a manner that your partner can understand. Everybody learns and absorbs information differently so if you don't know the difference between what you want and what you need and you have a partner that you have trouble being able to convey what you want versus what you need in a manner for them to be able to grasp and understand your partner is going to fail every time and trying to help you achieve and get what you want versus what you need.

3) the third issue is the societal norms and the societal expectations for your gender, race, religious beliefs ( situation based) within our society we have expectations for men and women, your race, even your age where you have to be at a certain point in your life, you have to have done this, as a man you should have already accumulated this, as a woman you should already have this and have that and because of all of these expectations and norms we end up doing what is expected of us and at the end of all of it we oftentimes never wanted any of the things that is expected from us.

4) there could be an argument made that overall happiness is subjective comma and our society is addicted to happiness period for something that eight billion people try to aim for but have no identity of self, it would be like giving someone an address to a place that doesn't exist you would be driving around for hours trying to look for something that isn't there. Our species for the most part is a hive mind so therefore if you put 10 people in a room at seven people are and pursuit of what they believe makes them happy and the other three doesn't know what makes them happy there's a high likelihood the other three will follow what the seven are doing. Monkey see monkey do, is a very common thing in our society.

5) at the beginning of his conversation he mentioned about" women never being happy" there may be some truth to it. The one thing that most women are taught is that it's a man's job to make you happy, I do not agree with this but it is in the foundation of the courting and dating ritual of our society. So because of this to prove that you are a good provider, similar to the Animal Kingdom where you try to find the biggest piece of meat to prove to the female counterpart that you are a strong mate a man will try in the best of his ability to make a woman happy. Just imagine how Reckless any woman or man would be if they were given a blank check any time to solve their problems. You would never look at the price of what you need to fix your problem you would just spend the check because it's not your money so you're not going to work. Women are doing the same thing in the same manner. A better example is to imagine that you discover a genie lamp and a genie gives you unlimited wishes, You Not only would never let the genie free you would never stop wishing because the wishes don't have a cost to you.

Solution: would be that we need to disconnect and stop being in a hive mind setting, it appears that our species and Society was never meant to be connected on such a level with 8 billion people on the planet. It is easier to persuade a room full of 100 people to do something that they normally would not agree to do or they find morally wrong. However, trying to get a single person or a room of two people to do something is a lot more difficult and harder. We don't want to riffle any feathers, or rock the boat so with this mindset we go along with things to fit in. So at best it may be wise to distance ourselves from large clusters and large groups of people to get a sense of self again. Also, I would recommend every person to truly take a deep dive and trying to understand what you want versus what you need this, this is very important in getting a sense of self to get a better idea of who and what you are. Also, one last thing rather if you like it or not at the end of the day the partners of your past and your current partner in the present is partly what you attract, so what that means is that if there's any qualities about your partner or if your partner is doing things that you may not particularly be fond of remember your partner is your other half. So in short you are partly what you attract.

[shayazi]

Stoicism...thats what is needed . Also dont over think