How Casual Dating Can Help You Find 'The One'

So you’re stuck in the dating doldrums. You meet a cute guy, go on one date and either he turns out to be a real bore, or he never calls you again. Being single stopped being fun a long time ago. It doesn’t matter how many fish there are in the sea when you can’t swim. Have you considered that maybe you’re just doing things all wrong? Stick around and I’ll tell you another way to approach dating that will change your outlook and your results.

I’m Amy North. Welcome to my channel! If you need dating advice, you’ve come to the right place. I’m a relationship specialist and I’ve been mentoring women in their dating lives for years both on Youtube and in person. I’m here to get you out of this rut.

So... just exactly how will casual dating help you find the one?

1. When we’re looking for the love of our life we’re in a very goal-oriented mindset. Namely: where is this perfect guy hiding and how do I make him mine?
This can put a lot of pressure on a new relationship. We can scare a guy off by pushing for a commitment too early. Or we can drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out what he’s thinking, if he likes us, if he’s even going to call us again.
Casual dating let’s you leave all this baggage at the door. When you know that, whatever happens tonight, you have another date lined up next week, suddenly the fears and anxieties disappear and you’re able to really enjoy yourself.

2. It’s a great way to get to know someone
It may seem like focusing on one person is the way to really get to know someone.
It’s easy to get wrapped up in the excitement of a new relationship and confuse that with love. If you don’t see him as often, you can actually get a clearer picture of what he’s like as you’ll have time apart to reflect and process. In some ways, dating multiple people lets you take things slow.
Plus, if you’re going on lots of dates you’ll be noticing the differences between the guys and getting a better idea of what you like and don’t like.

3. It allows more balance in your life
We often get caught up in the idea that the love of our life is what we need to be happy. He’s going to swoop in and change everything. While meeting the right guy is amazing, it’s important that we don’t neglect our own life until he comes around.

4. See what’s out there
Stop me if you’ve heard your friends, your family, or even yourself say this before “There are no good guys out there.”
Believe it or not, I find the people who say that the most often are those that date the least. It is any wonder that you can’t find good guys when you’re not willing to give anybody a chance?

5. Practice makes perfect
Think of it this way, the more dates you have the more you’ll be ready when they guy you really want arrives. You don’t want to scare away the right guy by being nervous or inexperienced with dating. The more you date, the more comfortable and confident you’ll be on dates.

There you have it. There are some powerful ways that casual dating can be your path to finding the one. It seems crazy, but it works for my clients and it could work for you too. Speaking of you, I want to hear your stories in the comments. What’s the most dates you ever went on in one month? Let us know and you just might inspire someone else to do some daring dating.
Thanks for watching, Youtube!

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[josjumps]

I'm all for non-sexual casual dating. I have been taking this approach for months now. It does help give you a clear picture of what you're looking for and helps you quickly eliminate anyone who is playing games or wasting your time (sadly, the majority of them play games). It also helps you to stop worrying about those guys you don't hear from for 3 days or 1 week. Lol. I do plan on finding the right guy or allowing the right guy to find me, but I won't sit under a rock until it happens. 😊

[terribrown]

Hell I can't get one date much less a bunch of CASUAL DATES

[indisingh]

Before I clicked on the video It crossed my mind What is meant by casual dating Thanks for sharing this Ms North

[racheldeegan]

Hey Amy! I love your videos, I have been watching you for about 6 months now and your videos are always so helpful! I was just wondering if it is ok to text your boyfriend asking if he’s ok with you hanging out with other guys or if it’s a problem with him? Personally, my boyfriend is a shy guy, really shy. So I was just wondering of how I should ask him if it’s ok or if I shouldn’t at all. Thank you :) can’t wait for future videos!😊

[lavayuki]

I only ever casual date, I'm very indecisive and need a lot of time to get to know a guy before commitment, like a few months. I remember I came across one guy who was super serious, had marriage on his agenda and tried to get me to commit after 3 weeks so I ditched him. He texted a few days later asking for a second chance, but he was waaay to full on and I wasn't attracted enough and didn't get the butterflies or anything around him, so I doubted my attraction would grow, so I rejected him and moved on

[derakuza]

This is actually true. And its good since you arent obsessed with one guy only who might turn out the worst guy after some time. But the right man might not always be the one that asks you out. Many of the good men are a bit shy for this. Tbh Ive been on dates with 3 different girls in 1 year. Its a bit hard to hear that women can have so many dates in 1 month but thats how it usually goes.

[ayandamaraga]

This seems like great advice Amy, but I have a problem. I only give a guy the time of day if I know that he has a chance with me. I don't put myself out there or take the time to get to know anyone if I don't see myself with them. I think I'm too quick to turn guys down. I'll take your advice and try this for the first time😇

[Gayatrisasexed]

I found this guy on bumble, i am really attracted to him . He is silent and is unexpressive . He doesn’t talk or call or text much actually at all . I don’t see efforts . But i am not able to deviate myself or stop thinking about him . I have been clear about my feelings but he says lets go with flow . He says he don’t know and have clarity about us . I don’t see efforts . What should i do ?

[vdvhhjv]

Hi 👋🏻 all every guy I even had a crush on ended up friend zoning me so how can I change that and make them see me as a girlfriend material

[Strwbygirl]

I beg to differ.... I date a lot a lot and there are noooo good men... I’ve probably listened and practiced everything you’ve said too!

[sdepp]

While I agree that ''repetition is the mother of learning'' I also think that your channel is just that. You repeat the same topics and tips in every video. I took the time to go through your content. It would be nice to get a bit of variety and concrete advice. You started working on your video quality, but don't forget the content.

[Suz]

Casual dating is not for me. I tried it for many years and it only attracted all the wrong men for me. Online dating sites are full of casual dating guys who want nothing more than to waste your time with hookups, coffee dates, appetizers and drinks only, lacking creativity in their dates. No thanks Amy. Not for me