Why do I let my 9 y/o dye her hair

[jessicakentvlogs]

We don’t constantly bleach her hair. We bleach every … 15-18 months. We don’t mess with her regrowth. We deep condition it. We use great products when we do dye it also. Her hair is very well taken care of and very healthy. Hair … grows 😉

[michitamielcita]

As a hairstylist who regularly sees controlling parents step in and override their child's decision after their 8 year old has perfectly articulated how they would like their hair to look - Thank you!

[playlistmusicchannel]

here's the thing, if she can do the things that she wants right now, she can actually enjoy her life as a kid instead of impatiently wanting to grow up to be able to do those things 🤷🏻‍♀️

[thepinkzebra]

Also? When youre a kid is the BEST time to experiment and do whatever you want with your hair, there's no professional standard you *need* to uphold, no societal pressure to have a "professional style for the workplace" etc be young! Chop your hair off! Experiment!

[Lucia-yczj]

If she feels like she can make her own decisions it’ll also help prevent that typical “teenage rebellion” down the line. That often happens when kids are made to feel like they have no rights and no say over their own bodies, their own lives, and so when they get older they lash out and make poor decisions they later regret because “why not, I’m sick of being told what to do, I want to make my own choices”

Edit: I’m not saying let the kid run the house, I’m saying that it’s important to teach them how to make good choices for themselves and then actually letting them have a say (within reason and age appropriate and what not)

[KiKiQuiQuiKiKi]

And schools are there to undo all of that autonomy…
Good on y’all for realizing this type of thing is important!

[KatBlaque]

You know it's so interesting hearing this because I remember what it felt like to be a kid who dressed in a way that satisfied everyone but myself. Obviously this is slightly different for me since I'm a trans woman, but it's really taking me a while to genuinely step into my style without thinking about how other people feel about what I'm wearing. I'm 31 and I'm finally wearing the fun clothes I've always wanted to wear because I was too afraid to forever ago. So stuff like this is heartwarming

[isaacnilsen]

As someone who studied hairdressing, i absolutely love to see kids being allowed to express themselves with hair color and cool haircuts, it always makes me so happy! I would like to just point out that before the age of 16ish your skin is a LOT more sensitive to chemicals used in hair dye, so when using bleach and dye, even semi-permanent dye, keep in mind that their skin is more sensitive and theyre a lot more likely to develop allergies the the chemicals which could give severe reactions. Just don't put the products too close to the scalp. Either keep an inch or two near the root or dye the bottom half or do colored high-/lowlights or something to minimize the exposure of the chemicals to their skin, at least until their in their teens. If the hairdying is a one-time thing this is not likely to be an issue but if your child regularily dyes their hair make sure to avoid them develop any allergies. I don't know much about pet-safe dues, but maybe that could be an alternative? Definetley look into that though as i have never worked with pet safe dyes and haven't read about how they differ from normal dye or if it is ideal to use on humans

[birddeebirdify]

Omg! Thank you! I also give my 8 y/o "freedoms" that I get criticism for and this is exactly why I make or rather let her make the choices she does. Children are people, not Invalides. I think it's especially important for young girls (because there is a double standard for girls VS boys) to have agency over their bodies and choices so they don't learn to rely on outside sources for validation or approval. Or be vulnerable to those who'd use manipulation, control and other toxicities towards those that don't have a strong sense of self. And you can't build strong self esteem or self worth if you don't know who you are. Teach them all you can now. Don't wait until they're "adults" to figure it out for themselves. Set boundaries not rules. And most importantly just trust and love your child the way you'd like someone else too.

[Izzy-cpyt]

I love this. The number of arguments my parents and I had over shoes when I was a kid were ridiculous. It was almost always sneakers, too. I wanted the ones that lit up, had sparkles, or other fun features. I was always shot down and pushed to get the boring, borderline ugly ones that were generic and plain under the reasoning that the other kind "looked cheap". Children aren't dolls, and they should have the autonomy to express themselves through clothing like anyone else. (And for those wondering, I did finally get the light up sneakers. Wore them until all the lights were dead and I could barely get my foot in them anymore)

[mollyjackson]

Because she wants to and she looks beautiful and she's going to change the world one day. THATS WHY YALL 💗💜

[mywadi]

I always hated that my mom told me "you can do these things when you're an adult" in reference to hair dying & my style when I was a teen. So I should wait until I need to have a clean cut appearance in order to get work and other opportunities as an adult? I wonder a lot if my mom did that out of genuine concern for anything or just to exert control. I'm glad I did whatever I wanted appearance wise, because I would feel like I was doing a huge disservice to myself if I never had these creative outlets as a kid.

[TerPer]

It's sad that you even have to explain this.. MIcah rocks that purple & pink hair!! 💜💗 😍

[nikkic]

It’s one way she expresses herself. I was 10 when my Mom started dying my hair. When hair is at the skin’s surface it’s actually dead. You are an amazing Mom.

[Bellavanacoffee]

word mama. once when I was young my mom told me that to have short hair you need a really pretty face. Owch. PS as soon as I went to college I cut my hair pixie short and I LOVED IT!

[mbddvzq]

Finally allowed to dye my hair now that I'm a teen, not allowed to bleach it, but how I have dark purple hair. I absolutely love it! And I appreciate that you're letting your child make her own decisions.

[endeavour]

I love that the only time you step in is when it's like "hey buddy that might be damaging to your health"./gen

[Tatd_Barbi_]

Yesss!!! I agree with this 1000%! My daughter who is 14 now has been shaving her head for the past 2-3 years. And we get asked the time “omg does she have cancer?” As well as her being referred to as he/him a lot. And the answer is NOOOO SHE DOES NOT HAVE CANCER & SHE IS FEMALE! So why does she shave it & why do I allow it? Bc she is her own person!!! Idc HOW she does or hair or WHAT clothes she picks out bc it’s a reflection of who SHE IS & I love her regardless of any of that. I’m the same way with my son who is 11. He has recently wanted to start growing his hair long so he can have a “man bun” and I have NEVERRR liked man buns, but it’s NOT MY DECISION!!! If he wants a man bun & she wants a shaved head then DAMN IT HES GETTING A MAN BUN & SHES GETTING A SHAVED HEAD. PERIOD!!! Those who think bad about parents like us are gonna be the ones controlling EVERY single thing their child does & their child will end up resenting them for it when they’re older & rebelling like a mofo in their teen years whereas ours will know they don’t have to go behind our backs for a hair cut or hair dye bc they know we won’t care…my mom let me do whatever I wanted with my hair, I got piercings starting at 13, & got my first tattoo at 15 and my mom was there for EVERY ONE OF THEM. And bc of that I never had to hide anything like that or go behind her back to do it. Like she always said…”I’d rather her be with me getting piercings/tattoos then being out there with people idk getting in trouble, bc at least if she’s here doing this I KNOW SHES SAFE!!”

[callhimcurly]

"Why do I let her have pink and purple hair?"
Simple answer, you're a good mum.

[Angie_]

Lol, this reminds me of when my son was 6yo. He wanted a mohawk and I let him. The top he grew out pretty long but he kept having me trim the sides. It was his choice. We were at a scouting event and a work friend of my husband came up to say hi. He and his wife were jabbering away when the wife asked my husb "whoa, isn't it a shame what some parents make their kids wear out in public?!?" I knew what she was talking about but she went on to say that some boys were wearing cutoff jean shorts (gasp!) and some kid was running around playing tag with like half a shaved head and the rest was "long like a girl's hair, like what were his parents even thinking...to do that to their kid?!?!' I said, well, maybe they're thinking it's just hair and it'll grow back? She shot me a dirty look, but went on with her rant
2 min later my son runs up to me and her face dropped. Lol I just calmly introduced him. He shook their hands, said nice to meet you. Oh my goodness that was so funny.