Are you stuck with a Narcissist? Here's how to tell...

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Narcissism will destroy any Relationship. Sometimes we ask ourselves "is my partner a Narcissist?". So these are my clues to figuring out whether or not you are stuck in a Narcissistic or Co-dependent Relationship.

[sallyg]

They can’t love you more than they love themselves. And they don’t love themselves.

[katherinemccoy]

It took me a long time to realize what the relationship could have been would never be.

[ffadramachick]

I finally broke contact with my mother for these exact reasons... Took me 40 years to realise that I'm not a daughter, I'm a tool for her to use. Its SO hard... I was raised to please my parents... But now I know I was raised that way to be under her thumb for life.

[MsCraftyMonica]

Three weeks ago I left my partner of 11 years. I started watching videos on YouTube, like this one, and I realized how nothing was going to change. I realized how badly I was being treated, and saw that our son was witnessing this. I decided I did not want our son thinking this was ok on how to treat a woman. I've started seeing couples who are in a healthy loving relationship, which has given me courage to stick to my guns on staying separated when he has begged for me to take him back. No more. I'm done. Ready to move on and heal.

[deborahwhitener]

Took 35 years but I'm far better alone.

[starlingswallow]

I stayed 14 years thinking I was the issue and kept loving him, hoping he'd come to love me, too. 😢
What a mess.
I gained some self worth and self love back in 2018 in order to say NO MORE. I deserve better!!
I'd actually met 2 amazing friends who helped me see this and refuse to waste the rest of my life giving ALL of myself, while simultaneously dying, to try and get that idiot to see me, hear me and love me.

I'm now in an incredible marriage with a healthy man and DANG ITS SO EASY!!! I no longer try to find my worth in someone else or try to "fix" other people. I have enough worth all by myself ❤

[pearlluber]

The really hard part about leaving the abuse relationship was the fear of my safety getting rid of him.

[Paulroach]

100% me in my last relationship. I lost me but now he’s back. No contact helps heal faster. You need to go through the fire to get to the other side. But it’s so worth it. Bring me again is awesome.

[agapelove]

I left unhealthy relationships, and it gave me room to heal. Sometimes, walking away with your dignity is all you have left. Why put up with abuse, a lack of respect, being given fake love when they want something, and having no loyalty and no integrity? Life is too short for the BS!

[HollyWaterfall]

"if I could just..." yes this! If I could just say the right words. If I could read the right marriage repair book. If I could just heal myself... but it will never EVER be enough. Exactly like you said, that would mean they would have to love someone else more than they love themselves. I know I need to leave. I know that's the right answer. We have just been hurting each other and doing so much damage for over a decade. How does an emotionally abusive/super codependent relationship un-tangle itself?? it feels so impossible!

[helenblackhurst]

Totally resonates with me. Spent 20 years looking at what the relationship could be and thinking if only I could make them see Instead of looking at the truth. So many wasted years😞

[avibhagan]

I don't need to know if my partner is a narcissist or not. I need to know how they are treating me and that they refuse to stop and that they are lying and gaslighting and refusing to even admit to how they behaved and what they did.

Just set hard boundaries, and try your best to completely remove them from your life.

[Gems]

Im just getting started so guys pls give me a goodluck journey in this relationship

I am watching these videos to prepare myself better for whats to come or not

[magicmegan]

14.5 years married, 16 years together I finally wised up. warning: I genuinely thought he was taking accountability and cared, because after the rage and everything settled down, he would come back to apologize, which was full of gaslighting: future faking, and manipulative reasoning, and only “cognitive empathy.” but emotional empathy is when someone can set aside their own feelings, and tune into your feelings in the moment of discussing your pain and how they hurt you instead of escalating, shifting blame, making excuses & competing to be the best & worst victim.
when you love someone, you don’t treat them with transactional, competitive love, or contempt, or jealousy… true love isn’t superficial and transactional.

[heidiwright]

I was in a marriage with a narcissist for 12 years. I definitely had the mentality, if I say the right thing, if I love a bit harder…for me it my interpretation of the bible on marriage, and turning the other cheek, etc. I have since learned that being treated the way he treated me (abuse in every sense of the word) was not acceptable and we have been divorced 10 years now.

[Judyjlefebvre]

I've been in too many relationships where I'm the one who has to change....I never did anything to warrant those accusations.. I did do everything to bend to his demands..I was so committed I was putting my self aside to appease him. Single now and loving my life to the fullest. ❤

[NormanVarnadoe]

She hated my family my friends I was totally isolated and ripped to shreds constantly I prayed thousands of nights alone by myself that she would be kind I finally realized nothing in the world is worth this batshit crazy rollercoaster I been single for a year now and recovering from what felt like Hell. I have wonderful friends and family that have helped me through this am very blessed and at peace❤❤❤

[wilmajones]

This actually breaks my heart. I definitely feel this way but I keep staying. 💔

[SallieMosely]

Yes yea yea yea yes yes yes. To all of this. Finally left my narcissist husband after 21 years. Yes. Thank you for saying all the things!!!!

[snuggleb]

I could just pour out my heart here. I'm 65 and have been stuck in this abusive relationship for 32 years. I've tried to get out 4 times, this will maybe be the 5th if I don't get scared. He wouldn't let me finish hair dressing school bc I'd become independent and potentially leave him. My family sabotaged me when I tried to live with my mom and couldn't stay there bc of their abuse. I'm so very hopeless right now. I went to my pastor and he wants me to find a job then ask my husband to leave. Is it wrong to be so afraid bc I've been a stay at home mom and grandma for so long to go out to work?? I have no skills and in this day and age everything is soooo expensive. Its a nightmare for me. So if I stay in this relationship I suffocate and die inside which I'm doing right now. I'm in pretty good shape for my age and healthy but 40 hours a week doing stupid meaningless things? Why is the victim always the one to suffer the most? Feeling so very hopeless.