If you don’t get everything you want from a person, would you consider it “settling”? 👀

[jewelsafire]

Once I learned that my man wasn't ever going to be my "girlfriend" and whatever imaginary figure I expected him to be for me, it made me see & appreciate him for who he was in my life. He was a lover, friend, protector, provider, most of all a solid companion. It wasn't settling at all, I was blessed to have someone to love and care for me that much. To go the distance, it takes two whole beings wanting to share a life together with all their hearts. So yes, what Trill said about our needs being met is correct. Know when you have something good.🙏🏽🌹

[tinyking]

Trip & Trill aren’t lying. 🙌🏽💯❗️🔥 That’s not settling that’s being realistic. No one is perfect. It’s only settling when you aren’t benefiting from the relationship or the person isn’t showing up for you or loving you like you need them to.

[NKN]

What is needed IN a partner ... what is needed FROM a partner. Tripp is dropping heavy 📶 for real! The grammatical nuance in those two statements and how Tripp broke down the difference, provides the contextual explanation for how to set the tone for a HEALTHY interdependent relationship. 💯

[shaneejoseph]

Very well said Tripp....so many people have a messed up analogy of what they should be looking for from a partner....certain things you can work on together....

[BCNYC]

He speaking truth. The longer you’re with someone your wants n needs can change as you’ll change over time. We often focus on what we don’t have then what we do have. At the end of the day if someone isn’t as committed as you are to the relationship they’ll use any reason to get out of it.

[JoshMitchell]

Fascinating point about identifying our wants and needs, which really speaks to our self-awareness, our relationships with ourselves. One person's want/ preference is another's non-negotiable.

[sendinglove]

Tripp TRIPP when are you going to get your own podcast, talk show, coaching, or something…. The community needs you. You have been gifted with the voice of reasoning and expression. I’m so happy you are able to share your gift to the world many blessings to tonight’s conversation ❤

[tiffanywilliams]

Tripp gets more attractive every time he speaks truth and understanding.

[loveheals]

They don’t want to do the work within themselves! That part! Facts!!
What we NEED within ourselves, we should NEVER seek in another person because guess what! They will always let us down because they either don’t know what we need, don’t care what we need or too broken within themselves to understand our need and address it. It is nothing greater than going into something with someone that you naturally have your needs met by them being their authentic, healthy version of themselves and it naturally enhances the authentic healthy version of yourself. Happy love journeys y’all! It is someone for all of US. But it has to start with US and how we show up for ourselves. 💕

[GrammaEllie]

Things we want & need may change over time. No one will ever be able to provide ALL of those. We have to be self accountable to SOME of the things we want & need also, while being willing to always evolve with our partner on them. Bc their needs & wants will change also.

[EyvetteColeman]

Exactly let's Really Talk about it

[Poolman]

Real F-ing talk. 80/20 rule has been my go to. If your partner comes with 80%, you should be able to work on that other 20z but Tripp is exactly right. So many people just do not want to put in the work to be better.

[jettanyiagumbs]

He danced on such a thin line perfectly…It’s the way he can make complex thoughts seem toddler simple…It shows that he has a real understanding of what he’s talking about… He has so much of my respect for that…When he opens his mouth…I want to shut up and listen…Very well said said sir…The example he used perfectly illustrated the concept…I pray for God to mold me into the type of woman a man like this needs…In Jesus Name….🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾♥️

[Fishmorph]

That’s a great distinction. Who do you want your partner to *be* and what do you want your partner to *do* are different. A person could be rich, but not act with generosity; they could be wise, but not willing to teach; they could be patient, but not able to be patient with you.

Asking for your partner to be the be-all and do-all in your world such that you don’t have to contribute *anything* on your end, that’s not realistic. “If he were the perfect man, he’d know what I needed and just give it to me, and I would never have to ask or explain myself.” That’s just selfishness and laziness. You’re not a child, getting everything handed to you on a silver platter. You’re a grown-ass adult. Be present.

[connectheezdots]

I’m glad this is finally 😊being addressed… because needs are very different then wants. Wants change with the seasons. Needs are internal like Food, Shelter & Clothing.

[janediajones-caraway]

🌹🌹Thank you both, Trip for always explaining things in a very simple and meaningful way, that’s not hard to understand. Even though, what you say is bitter sweet, it the “WHOLE TRUTH”, I (hopefully other women and men) can’t do anything but “RESPECT” your point of view. Blessings Always 🌹🌹

[mrstevens]

Facts! Folks DON"T want to do the work, but will complain complain complain about this person and that person.🤨

[Bearwoman]

I think we come into our relationship that we have to teach each other what we need From one another. I think as time goes by we grow and so those needs and wants May change to reflect the bonding and the trust that has grown

[Thatsher]

Well stated. People need to stop talking about superficial traits and start talking about character traits. Amen!

[blaccknight]

Very well said, something we can all consider...it was alarming how the girl at the start wqs so quicc to consider it "settling". However, she wqs expressing what ahe knew and too many ppl have that mindset now. Establishing the difference between wants and needs could help us all. As well as knowing yourself to understanding what you need within a person and from a person.