Why Nobody Wants to Take Responsibility

Why Nobody wants to take responsibility - and why they might be right not to. Here, I talk about how the concept of 'taking responsibility' has become synonymous with 'self blame'. I propose a new way to conceptualize responsibility, transcending the need for a victim or victimizer.

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Dr. David Maloney is a Psychologist and therapist. His has trained in a variety of techniques (person-centered, Gestalt, ACIM, psychodynamic) and works with people on a wide variety of issues. His main areas of expertise are in self-esteem, motivation, and relationships.

[denisduarte]

This is a great and true insight. Indeed, people who have difficulty taking responsibility already feel guilty. I can relate to that a lot. I think it has a lot to do with the upbringing. Maybe that's why families with authoritarian parents (lots of guilt in childhood) generate the most hardcore rebels.

[carolynhawley]

I once read responsibility means the ability to respond such as in a crises like running into a burning bdg to rescue someone. But I like your idea of responsibility without blame.

[CAB]

Wow, you remind me of Buddha: have you wandered in the forest for years seeking truth? But seriously, it was just two months ago today I started awakening to the reality of my childhood. At first I couldn’t think about it without tears and depression, feeling very much a victim. But after meditating and writing about it, here’s where I am as of now. Everyone in my original family is dead, have been for decades. I can’t interact with them, can’t change a thing in the past. It’s up to me to reframe (?), clarify (?) my thoughts. My mom and dad never spoke about their past, but I do see this as a generational thing. They weren’t just demons sent from hell to torment me. Anyway, they’re dead, I’m alive. What good does it do to wallow in pity and “blame” them? They did what they did, based on who they were, and I have aspects in my character I’m not thrilled with, which were reactions to their behavior. I’m not blaming myself: in fact, I’m in awe of my inner child, what she went through and how she adapted to get us here. It’s my responsibility NOW to identify where we are and move us forward, using my mind, heart and soul. Sorry this got so long, hope it makes sense.

[PartTimeBallroomDancing]

Responsibility without Blaming myself.

[neetaarora]

Yes, si there's no one and nothing to blame outside or inside us, and yet choosing to deal with ourselves as well as critic vanishes, accusations become pointless, and our agency you think this then can become our orientation, approach in all scenarios!

[bhavya]

These videos are helping alot, would be greatful if you could upload more than 1 videos per week :)