12 Signs You Live with a Victim Mentality

[reyafae]

Here's the 12, I took notes :)
1. Repeated reasons/ excuses of why you can't overcome situations.
2. Constantly thinks others have an advantage over you.
3. Negative feelings are always blamed on others.
4. Believes the world is against you
5. Constantly replays the past without growth
6. Often feel stuck
7. Doesn't take encouragement or advice
8. You feel powerless in the circumstances in your life
9. Your story is disempowering to you.
10. Constantly feel that you get the short end of the stick.
11. You tolerate abuse
12. You don't know what you want.
Great video! Very insightful

[siobhan]

Great video! I would add a couple of others: 1. A sense of entitlement: feeling that others owe you something because you are suffering more than them, and 2. Reduced empathy for the suffering of others: feeling that, as you are always the chief victim, whatever problems other people have are trivial by comparison and so you don't need to care for them.

[shenahpark]

This was such a revelation for me. I didn’t know that I was looping the same old thing all over again. I really need to stop using my past as an excuse

[junowood]

Victim mindset comes from childhood trauma and thinking that other people had a better headstart in life and an advantage is a real thing because these people do not have cptsd. Doesn’t mean you should just wallow in self pity but it is harder flr some than others. I feel “victim mindset” is literally blaming the victim of cptsd

[helena.j]

It never crossed my mind that I might have a victim mentality until I started watching videos and reading articles. It leveled up my mindset.

[cryptomanual]

This is the biggest fuel of addictive behavior. Helplessness

[mayajones]

Lord, I pray over any person watching this video that is struggling with victim mentality. Help us to remember the power of the Holy Spirit, for You gave us power, love, and a sound mind. In You, we have a sound mind, not a victim mind. Help us to change our mindset and transform our lives. Your Word said that we are more than a conquerer (Romans 8:37). We will no longer give the enemy power over our lives. You defeated the enemy already, Lord. We love you Jesus. Amen.

[tailsntrails]

That was the kick in the pants I needed. Thank you.

[Angie-AFB]

Had to go back and watch this video again to remind myself. The flesh loves to be a victim, we have to make the decision to do the opposite of what we feel in order to become am overcomer. Thank you Lord for the Holy Spirit!😃 This is a daily and lifelong decision, there will always be reasons and circumstances that make us want to maintain a victim mindset.

[SymphonySays]

I am an atheist and this was still helpful and eye-opening to me. Thank you.

[nikiqheassumi]

This signs are related to me. It's so eye opening and shocking to learn these facts. Thank you. Powerful video.

[chantelles]

Just my notes. WATCH THE WHOLE VIDEO.

Victim vs. Victor

1.) Repeating the *reasons* you cant breakthrough or have good experiences. Be honest. But dont get stuck!
2.) You think others have an advantage OVER you.
3.) Your negative inner thoughts blame past events. Take action!
4.) Thinking the enemy is targeting you.
5.) Replaying the same *stories* of pain. Break free from the loops.
6.) You speak of being "stuck". Need new understanding and applications and decisions.
7.) You dont take in helpful feedback? Do you listen and try to grow?
8.) You feel powerless about your circumstances.
9.) Your story is disempowering you. It feels "safe" because its familiar.
10.) You feel you get the short end of the stick. Rejection.
11.) You tolerate abuse and negative relationships. Stand up for yourself.
12.) You do not know what you want! Choose! Create an action plan!

THANKS FOR THE VIDEO!!
This was a very possitive Christian point of view. Thank you :-)

[LizNeptune]

This video was so important, thank you.. you broke it down so well. I am at the tail end of a 3 year long psychological moratorium. I have admitted, studied and understood my trauma and identified my abusers and the ways which my dysfunctional family has hurt and hobbled me. Check. Now that I understand what's wrong, I realized that I am afraid of the future where I KNOW what's wrong and I don't have it as a crutch. I've read that this moment is so crucial in developing into adulthood that from here the road splits into 2: either I continue limping in the future, allow my issues to consume me which makes it now MY FAULT or change. Bloom, blossom, forgive myself, let the past go, discipline myself. I am trying snap out of thank you

[laraoneal]

This is excellent. #11 is the only one I’m not doing. I share my abusive childhood bc I’ve thought it was being transparent so ppl would know where I’m coming from but it ends up with me being toxic to myself. My victim hood has been my identity. I know now why I feel stuck is bc I am. I’m stuck in this belief system.

[bianca]

My grandma has this the other day she said God put us here to be sad. It’s very concerning. I’m very happy to see another Christian talk about the strength that God has ALREADY given us. He LOVES us and would not abandon us by making us weak and frail. But it doesn’t mean he doesn’t want us to learn to stand on our 2 feet. Because even being over protective and saving someone from all their mistakes is not a sign of love it’s a sign of enabling and it doesn’t help someone long-term it actually harms them. So thank you for this message

[hengkelly]

This is so crucial for my own growth in this journey with Christ. Breakthrough happening, as I reflect as well. Thank you so much for this video that you filmed! God bless x

[jewishbride]

I decree and declare me being victimized will not be my story to carry, I decree and declare I will no longer be and feel victimized and bind myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ to a winner's mentality while binding to hell all victim mentality and binding to hell every lack of freedom from a victim's mentality, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with those with a victim mentality or those that victimize others while lacking a winner's mentality, in accordance with john 10:10, romans 8:37, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this whole message, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

[Shadoessa]

I’m glad he said your problems are legitimate and you are likely a victim of abuse. It’s nice to feel validated like that.

[destroyraiden]

I hate the term victim mentality it seems like a toxic word you have been victimized! So you're hurting from that but we make it a negative and basically victim shame them for being hurt. One must mourn, feel the pain, or process the pain & trauma that happened to them but I get the mentality part of this word is them then holding stagnate (after a few weeks or many months of being held there) in the pain or being unable or unwilling to process beyond it so it then becomes a problem but this whole word needs a better rephrase.

[thirdcordbiblicalcounseling]

This is so on the money! I was looking for a Bible based video and this is PERFECT! I'm working with my group on this currently. This vid says it simply and says it all!